I’ve kind of been dying.
Last month, our family submitted a digital update request for the superhero who we pray will join our team this fall, and since the day we hit “send,” all of us have been sitting on pins and needles waiting for a response.
Of course, that was after we hit “send” the SECOND time … because the FIRST time we hit “send,” the Bridge of Love people in China rejected our update request because we apparently asked too many questions.
As one known for my brevity and ability to be concise, I was shocked. I mean, I cut my original list of 200 questions down to fewer than 100, which I then phrased in tricky compound sentences to make SOUND like only 50 or 60.
Superhero 4 hadn’t had an update to his adoption file in nine months, and we were all dying to hear what the little boy who has stolen all of our hearts is doing, enjoying, saying and experiencing in this season of life.
Alas, China only allotted us 30 questions. And so we painfully whittled down our list until only 30 remained.
We received Superhero 4’s official update in our email box on Friday, but we didn’t have time to fully digest it until this weekend, when we found ourselves reading it over and over again and clinging to the tiny bit of information that gives us a window into the little man who will soon be our SON!
And now, after processing the answers to the 30 questions we were permitted to ask of his foster family in China, we are confident of two things:
1. We are more in love with this boy than ever!
2. Our wild and crazy boys are 99.8 percent going to scar him for life.
From the notes his foster mama provided, Superhero 4 is an introvert.
An extreme introvert.
An introvert who is startled by loud noises and wild settings.
The words Superhero 4’s foster parents used in his update report included “quiet,” “shy,” “timid” and “insecure.”
Dear Jesus, please let our incredibly compassionate but VERY loud, obnoxious, in-your-face, I-can-pee-farther-and-stinker-smellier braggers not eat this angel whole in two big bites.
As we gazed at his update again and again, the boys all marveled at the adorable video attached to the email.
I watched the video and read the update probably 10 different times as I sat outside with the boys on the trampoline on Saturday.
And this is how it went.
“[Superhero 4] is an introverted, insecure child, so he needs some more time to adapt to the changes.”
Superhero 1 whacks Superhero 2 with a foam-noodle-turned-light-saber in a made-up game where the boys basically beat themselves silly with pool noodles while they jump on a trampoline and pretend they are characters in Star Wars.
“[Superhero 4] is more introverted, generally will not contact initiatively with other kids, prefers to observe silently.”
Superhero 3 shouts at the top of his lungs to Superhero 2 before he leaps through the air with a ninja move he calls a force push and accidentally lands on Superhero 2’s penis, which apparently is not allowed and disqualifies him from earning the credit for a successful force push.
“[Superhero 4] is timid and tends to feel less safe. So, the best style for him is with gentle, patient, step-by- step approach.”
And the boys burst out in an all-out laughing-lunging-wrestling match to decide whose turn it is to be the Star Wars commander.
It’s going to be great.
I mean, the boy's favorite activities are building structures out of blocks and Legos, and his foster parents say that he loves snuggling and stuffed animals.
Lego building, right after light saber fighting, is the love language of this home. <3
I was also super encouraged by this note:
“[Superhero 4] is very quiet and shy and likes to understand and help others. For example, sometimes his younger [foster] brother will throw toys everywhere, he will quietly pick up the toys into the toy box, and then the brother picks them out again and throws on the ground, however he will never get angry.”
“Never gets angry.”
Because, even though these boys are as fiercely LOVING as they are LOUD, living inside of THIS chaotic wrestling zone is going to require all three years of patience he has stored up.
Welcome to the family, Superhero 4! We pray your Star Wars attacks are short, your Lego-building afternoons are long and that the sound-proof ear muffs we are now purchasing for you will be enough to tune out the one million decibel laughing-tackling-wrestling-thunderjumping that is the background music of our life.
We can’t wait to meet you in what we hope will be T minus five or six months! WE LOVE YOU!
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